What do people say?...
I have always had a problem with tattoos and extreme body modification, but have learned to come to terms with them, due to their growing popularity in society, and that there’s nothing I can do about it. Unfortunately however, I continue to struggle with judgement when seeing anyone with large, obvious tattoos. I work with girls that love tattoos, and one very pretty girl in particular, who must be no more than 20 years old, has a full chest tattoo, along with several others. I can’t help but wonder what her parents must think. Maybe they also have tattoos and they’re proud of her. I don’t know. But I do know that if my daughter came home with that “personal exhibit of self expression” on her body, I would absolutely lose my mind. If she still lived with me, I’d throw all her belongings out the door, with her to follow. I personally feel that marking up your body is gross, implies insecurity, a lack of self respect, and absolutely ruins an otherwise beautiful creation. We as human beings in general, go through life doing our best to avoid scarring our skin, and breaking our bodies. And I personally feel that tattoos and other extreme body modifications go against the intrinsic, rational human desire to maintain the body in its original, clean, healthy form to the best of our ability. BTW, I am an atheist, so religion has no basis in these beliefs. Probably just the way I was raised. I do have a 31 year old son who chose to get a large tattoo “in honor of his late grandmother”. Some people might say “Awww, how beautiful”, but I say she would have rather he’d just put some flowers on her grave, and look at pictures to honor her memory. This answer is my personal exhibit of self expression. There are less permanent ways of expressing yourself than marking up your body.
Well, massive tattoo coverage is not really my bag.
Personally (and I know this is one fellah’s preference) I’m more appreciative of sleeves and such on men than women. I can’t quite put my finger on why, though it has somewhat to do with liking the aesthetics of women’s limbs undistracted by tattoos.
All that said, seeing a heavily tattooed woman doesn’t freak me out or make me not like her. I will make a weak assumption that she’s likely more untraditional than an unadorned woman, but that’s about all I have to go on. I will say, I’ve found that people with tattoos often like to talk about them, so it can be a nice icebreaker.
Tattoos are very personal and when approaching a woman, it gives men something to comment on or relate to. In a way, it gives men more confidence to approach because it gives them something personal to open with besides the usual cliches or pick up lines. A visible tattoo gives a man a way pay attention to a woman without coming on too strong, or too interested.
Most women love attention and compliments. When a woman has visible tattoos, in a way she is saying: “Here I am and this is who I am, so come talk to me”. Normally women dress to impress other women, so if a man comments on her attire, he may come off as gay or metrosexual. General comments regarding looks like “you have pretty eyes” are not as personal and come off fake. Asking a woman about her tattoo(s) is saying: “I accept you for who you are and I’m interested in you, and your story”.
From a psychological standpoint, women that have tattoos may be deemed easier to pick up. Man logic would determine: “If a woman is confident or happy with herself, she would not feel a need to improve her self image”. A tattoo is a way for a woman to draw attention to herself, a way to build confidence, and a way to improve her self image. Man logic would determine: “Women with tattoos may have lower self esteem and confidence issues”, and therefore may be deemed ‘easier’ to approach.
From a religious and a social aspect a woman having a tattoo is still considered taboo. The bible forbids marking one’s body, so if a woman isn’t strictly following scripture in this regard, she may not be following scripture in other regards, like having pre-marital $ex. Socially, a woman getting a tattoo is a sign that she is rebelling against her parents or what old school society considers being ‘lady like’. Bad girls get tattoos. Bad girls have $ex outside of marriage. Bad girls and girls with lower self esteem are deemed easier to approach.